conflicts ? Monday, June 22, 2009 / 9:18 PM
seriously, i don't see why is there a need to make a big fuss out of the matter of punctuality . although it is very infuriating to see people being late at times during our meet ups , but i don't see why you need to show 'attitude' to others that are late . 'attitude' meaning that giving cold shoulders to others when they are talking to you or even SMS you to inform you when any1 of us are late . i can understand why u are frustrated by our punctuality , but who the hell in this world wants or likes to be late ? put yourself in those who are late , wont they feel embarrassed(pai seh) of themselves being late ? definitely they will ! when they are 'pai seh' obviously it is very difficult for them to '开口' to say anything . moreover , when we can sense that you very '不爽' of us being late , it is even harder to 开口 . i maybe unfair to you for pushing everything to you , and yes i am also in the wrong for being late . but do u think i want to be late ? i always try my best to make it on time for every meet ups with the idiots , but 'things doesnt always go the way u like or u want' . i can say audaciously that none of us wants to be late for any meetups , but sometimes things doesnt go the way as we expect . for example for me , on sunday library meet up at 1:30pm . i wanted to leave IMM at 1:20 so that i will reach the lib on time to study . but you cant expect me to leave my dad to make the whole decision when he is going to buy a new Television Set which also concern me . furthermore , it is father's day . of cos i want to spent more time with my dad . right , i am late , but i did send u a message to inform you i will be late so u wont wait for me in the library and duno where am i . and i am sorry for being late on the both days .
i know u are sacrificing ur time with ur dad then with us , and you must also know we are in the same boat as u studying in the lib with you . you made the choice of going to the library to study , so u are responsible of ur own doings and you cant really blame us for wasting ur whole time in the library when u are also doing ur work ? u mean that without shi hui helping you or doing with you , you cant do SOME of your D&T work by your own ? i maybe wrong , i maybe selfish and unfair for what i had said and did , but thats really from my perspective and i didnt mean to offend you .
on sunday , when we were leaving the lib , i intend to approach you and talked to you about this matter with shi hui . but when we were on the first floor of the escalator , u were already near the main exit of the lib . which makes it difficult for us to approach u and we didnt know whats going on in ur mind . what makes me so angry is when we were leaving the library , cant u have the courtesy to say 'goodbye' to us ? a wave or even a 'bye' to us will be much appreciated . but u just left in a rage . what u expect us to do ? go str8 at u in the face and apologise in such awkard situation ? it maybe easy to say , but its more difficult to do it .
i think there are more ways to change our bad habits rather then giving attitude and scolding . for example , we can talk things out on phone in conference and u can say what you are unhappy about , so we all can change . but u choose the choice to make a big fuss about it which cause almost every1 to be worried and furious at the same time . maybe u wanna get our attention to this matter , but there are ways to do so . u can post on the idiots blog to remind us not to be late for the meet ups , this would definitely show us that we are late at times and would 反省 so that next time we would not be late . or u can even introduce a new rule such as those being late and unaccountable for will be fine $$ ? this may seems quite stupid , but this is the reality to solve things out in a peaceful manner . what you had done is maybe a way you like to handle things which we cant blame , but sometimes there are many alternatives to handle things .
i am really sorry for being late when i should not be . and keeping you waiting all the time when u are in the library . lastly , dun take it too personally as the things that i write here is for the welfare of the whole idiot family and i do not want each and every1 of us to stay unhappy and fall apart because of a small matter .
i know u are really angry about this matter and wants to get our attention to it so that none of us in the future would make this mistake again . i do agree with you , shi hui maybe in the wrong , but she did sms me and said she would be late , but its just that i didnt show you or tell you at first . i am also sorry for that because i didnt knew you would be angry about it .
i also dont like people to be late , but we are so close frens and i know that this kind of little things should not affect our relationship that has been together for so many years .
u may dun agree with what i say or wad i meant , but thats really what i want to say about this late coming thing so as some of us wont be making this mistake again . i may be harsh for what i say and i dun mean to offend you in anyway . sorry for my mistakes .
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